I think this idea of a self or no self has to be understood trough meditation. Both the concept of ” a self ” and “no self” is a perception. When we sleep we do not perceive our self. Are we to suppose this situation as true or false?
In meditation we can arrive to a mental state, that we would not perceive “ego” or “I”, while the awareness is there.
Then if we conclude there is “no self”, it is wrong view.
then if we conclude there is “a self”, it is wrong view.
It means all our perceptions leads us to “wrong views”
Get rid off all views. That is freedom.
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Contrary to popular opinion, the Buddha never said there there is no self. Instead, he pointed out that a separately existing self can never be found.

Buddha (and later Nagarjuna) suggested that Nihilism (there is no self) and Eternalism (there is a separate self which lives forever) are two extremes, both of which are to be avoided. The truth, he suggested, lies between those two extremes. Hence the notion of the Middle Way, or “Madhyamika”.

While this may sound baffling, many things in nature are baffling. Is an electron a wave or a particle ? The answer is that it depends on how we view it. It isn’t a wave. It isn’t a particle. To say that it is neither a wave nor a particle, is false. To say that is both a wave and a particle is also false. Then what is an electron ?

The same can be said of so-called individuals. They are neither completely separate, nor are they completely independent… etc.

The Buddha tried to describe this 2500 years ago.

A good portion of the Tipitaka, the Theravada Canon, is on line through Access to Insight. The site has an very helpful index by topic, sutta, name, and subject. It also has a list of on line books.

Thanks for your review.

In answer to your questions;

Q. A re-read of Dr. Rahula’s book will probably help, but the search is on for a book that explains how Buddhism answers these kinds of questions.

A. “MINDFULNESS, BLISS & BEYOND” – Ajahn Brahm (Wisdom Publications)

Cheers…Paul.